How do you gain trust with God? People can say that they have it. How do you truly feel it?
What a great question!
Trust is the foundation for any relationship. Could you imagine a friendship without trust? Maybe you’ve experienced that before. It probably didn’t feel much like a friendship, did it? Well, a relationship with God isn’t much different. So let’s take a look at how we are able to build trust in human relationships, and then maybe the answer to this question will be a little more clear.
When you first meet a person, you have no reason not to trust them. You just met; they haven’t had any chance to do something that would betray your trust. In fact, in the time you have spent together (all 5 minutes of it), they’ve been pretty reliable. But does that mean you trust them right away? Unless you’re 5, it’s probably safe to say that the answer is no.
And there is nothing wrong with this. It’s normal to not completely trust everyone you meet right away. They could be a great person, but when you first meet them you don’t know that. So how do you get to know that?
Trust starts with a relationship. You wouldn’t date someone and decide to marry them if you never spent any time with them. Spending that time with them allows you to build trust with that person. You spend time with their friends and family and end up learning more about who they are. Eventually, you’re comfortable with them and are able to trust them. God really isn’t any different. We need to spend time talking to Him in prayer in order to trust Him. We need to surround ourselves with people that know Him, and read the Bible to learn more about who He is in order to be able to trust Him.
Now having said all that we’ll answer the question: How do I trust God? I could tell you that I trust Him with every situation and, in theory, that would be correct. But sometimes it’s a tug of war we don’t always realize we’re involved in. Worry and trust don’t really go together, and one can spend a lot of time worrying about things that may or may not happen. Handing it over to God is a relief and a weight lifted.
In my house (and now in my apartment at school), we have a prayer box my grandfather gave us. It is just a simple wooden box with a lid, not magical or supernatural but helpful just the same. He told us to write God letters—our hopes, our dreams, our worries, concerns—put it all out there. Put the letter in the box and move on. Our grandpa’s idea was to revisit the prayers on New Year’s Eve and see how God had answered those prayers. You don’t need a box, just a pen and paper and private place to stash your letters. Pour out your heart to God; it’s easy. He’ll prove that He’s trustworthy. You’ll learn to see and hear Him. Talking to God will become as natural as breathing. All I can say is try it.