Even though the weather in my neck of the woods as of late would seem to indicate otherwise, the calendar is telling me that summer is just around the corner. You know what that means: Beach Season!
If you recall, last summer was My First Summer Without a Bikini, and honestly, I haven’t looked back (and am even a little surprised that it has only been a year since I stopped wearing bikinis). Even still, I remember and understand the desire girls have to show off that new beach body and especially that new summertime swimsuit. And in the age of Facebook, what better way to show off than by uploading a picture? It seems harmless, and everyone else does it anyway…
But before you upload those pictures this summer, you may want to check out these 4 reasons to reconsider the bikini pictures:
1) Because EVERYONE that you are friends with (and more, depending on privacy settings) can see these pictures.
Let’s stop and think about this for just a minute. Think carefully of all 812 of your friends. I’m sure you will come across at least one person that you wouldn’t want staring at you in a bikini.
To put it another way: imagine putting on your bikini and knocking on the front door of random Facebook friend—we’ll call him “Bob”—‘s house, and then just saying, “Feel free to stare at me. I’m just going to stand here smiling.”
Are you sufficiently creeped out? Unfortunately, that’s really not much different than what you’re doing by posting that “super cute” bikini picture of yourself on Facebook.
(If you’re having trouble thinking of who looks at your Facebook, here are some ideas to start you off: Uncle Jim, that kid you went to highschool with, the random guy you added because he kind of looked familiar but you’re not really sure you know in real life, potential employers, your lab partner, etc.)
2) Because the good guys (i.e. – the guys you want to date) will choose to “hide” those pictures from their newsfeeds anyway
That picture we took at the beach with our friends last Saturday? We may see it as a great shot of us with our friends just having a good time, looking cute in our new bathing suit, and are thankful those crunches have paid off because our abs look darn good. We even often post these pictures with the hopes of catching the attention of that cute guy from school.
This is so misguided though. Assuming the guy you’re interested in is a good guy trying to do the right thing, he will not want to objectify you by reducing you to a mere collection of body parts. But asking a guy not to reduce you to a collection of body parts and then presenting him with an image of basically nothing but body parts is sending some seriously conflicting signals. (That picture is not inviting him to admire your beautiful smile…)
In other words, if the guy that you want to see this picture is a good guy with some discipline, he is going to hide the picture from his newsfeed because it’s an occasion of sin that he is wise enough to eliminate (and I have this on the authority of some pretty spectacular dudes). If he’s not, well then he’s just going to objectify you without a second thought. It’s a lose-lose situation. Either way, you’re definitely not getting the kind of attention you want.
3) Because you’d never post a picture of yourself in your bra and underwear on Facebook
Right? Of course right. Let’s stop pretending that a pictures of us wearing material covering the exact same amount of skin looks any different.
4) Because your beauty is more than your body
Like I said, you will definitely attract attention from guys by posting pictures of yourself in your bikini, but they’re not going to be focused on your beautiful smile or your magnetic personality. Don’t believe me? Just check out the comments on anyone of you or your friends’ current bikini pictures. I’ll bet they all read something along the lines of, “Dayyyum, girl!” and use words primarily like, “hot,” or “sexy.” You’ll be hard-pressed to find a “beautiful” or a “lovely,” but isn’t this the kind of attention we want far more than being referred to as, “hot”?
It’s a cheap way to get attention, and let’s face it: it’s beneath you. You’re beautiful, and you don’t have to post a half-naked picture of yourself on Facebook to prove it.